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Summertime PDF Print E-mail
Thursday, 15 July 2010 10:23

“Summertime, And the livin' is easy”
(George Gershwin)

My granddaughters live in Denver, Colorado.  They have year-round school there.  They say kids do better in school because they don’t have time to forget so much of the lessons from the previous year.  I suspect that their experience of summer will be far different than mine.

For many of us, when we were young, summer was the best time of the year.  As a child I can’t tell you how much I looked forward to summer vacation. Those twelve years (plus eight more with college and seminary) embedded a summertime rhythm deep into my soul.  I’ve found that every season has its unique rhythm that has imprinted us with its own stories and wisdom, but the rhythm of our youth and summer times are often a source of innocence, enjoyment, and strength.  We were no longer babies, we’d gone out into the world of school, we’d given nine months to “readin’, writin’, and ‘’rithmatic” and when summer rolled around we had a whole new appreciation of free time and play.  

We never moved, but my older brothers grew up when the land around us was farm land.  They started working on the farms with their friends at an early age.  By the time I came along the land had been turned into suburbs and a shopping mall.  Our experiences were different but each was shaped by the combination of a unique time of history, a time of life and a recurring time of year

Summertime was spent outdoors.  At first it was finding a best friend to be with to explore a world that was filled with new discoveries-like tadpoles, bird nests, painted turtles, and ant hills; creating forts or houses, climbing trees, living out imaginary adventures from sunup to sundown -on wagon trains, battlefields, little houses on the prairie, or seven seas pirate ships and picking up where you left off the next day;  dollhouses, sail boats, race cars, airplanes, and rocket-ships were built; on rainy days comic books were passed around; having enough kids in the neighborhood meant that a spontaneous game of baseball or starlight-moonlight could start-up, getting bicycles brought us to lakes, parks, community pools, swimming holes.  I got into scouting, so I had the opportunity to go to camp and to become a camp counselor, which had a huge impact on the direction of my life.  

Summer time memories are filled with great friends, some unforgettable people, some incredibly stupid stunts, and some great times.  I love to point out that all of that has gone into the mix of who we are.  Taking time to reminisce, to do a little digging in summer times past might uncover some long forgotten buried treasures.  The inner strength, joy and innocence of your youth is still part of you.  Reconnecting with it might just be what you need to handle the events of today.   Reminiscing out loud with some young people – including the feelings along with the story might just create new summertime treasures for both of your futures.

Central New York Forum meets every other month on the 2nd Thursday, 8:30 – 10:00am in the Community Room at LutheranCare, 108 Utica Road, Clinton, NY  13323.  

The next meeting is August 12, “Nurturing Spiritual Growth Through Spiritual Direction” presented by Rev. Karen Marshall, Pastor of Clinton United Methodist Church

 
LOL PDF Print E-mail
Sunday, 27 June 2010 14:44
Our granddaughters are here on their first visit since we moved to Upstate New York four years ago.  As one might expect of an 8 & 10 year old they often have a unique perspective on the world.  The children commented that we seem to laugh a lot.  (Emma, the youngest has taken it upon herself to count how many times she makes grandmother laugh.)  The antics of our granddaughters, as well as our two cats do often leave us laughing out loud.  There’s an old saying that laughter is the best medicine.  Norman Cousins told his story of humor therapy in the book Anatomy of An Illness.  Cousins had a painful, life threatening illness and he found that watching old Marx Brothers movies evoked genuine belly laughter, which led to at least two hours of pain-free sleep and a significant drop in his sedimentary level. With daily doses of laughter, combined with active participation in his medical treatment, Mr. Cousins made a full recovery. Almost 20 years later, he suffered a massive heart attack. Using the same philosophy of laughter and "partnership" with his physicians, he again made a full recovery.  There is a lot of science out there that points to the physical benefits of laughter.  There is a scientific "name" for the study of humor as treatment – psychoneuroimmunology -- as well as a "title" for the practice of humor therapy – "Mirthologist".  

Last year I visited my son in Minneapolis and came across a group of people in the second half of life acting silly in a local park.  This was my introduction to Laughter Yoga.  Laughter Yoga is described as a simple and profound exercise routine.  The brainchild of Dr. Madan Kataria, a Physician from Mumbai, India, launched the first Laughter Club at a Park on March 13, 1995, with merely a handful of persons. Today, it has become a worldwide phenomenon with more than 6000 Social Laughter Clubs in about 60 countries (http://www.laughteryoga.org).
Laughter Yoga combines unconditional laughter with yogic breathing (Pranayama). Anyone can laugh for no reason, without relying on humor, jokes or comedy. Laughter is simulated as a body exercise in a group; with eye contact and childlike playfulness, (If no one else is around look in a mirror) it soon turns into real and contagious laughter. The concept of Laughter Yoga is based on a scientific fact that the body cannot differentiate between fake and real laughter. One gets the same physiological and psychological benefits.  Some of the physiological responses to laughter include increased respiration, circulation, hormonal and digestive enzyme secretion, as well as a leveling of the blood pressure. Laughter also promotes the release of endorphins from the brain. Endorphins are nature's own "drug", giving a sense of euphoria.  
 
It’s possible to cultivate an internal observer; that little inner voice can remind us to choose the path of healthy laughter.  When I was younger LOL (Lots of Luck) could be understood as either

1. a sincere wish for another’s success or 
2. a cynical dismissal of a planned action (= You’ve got to be kidding! or What, are you crazy?). 

Now I understand that for those who twitter it translates as “Laugh Out Loud”, with a meaning of ;

1. an experience of humor
2. a cynical dismissal of another person. 

A habit of perspective often determines which meaning is used.  Laughter often comes out of difficult experiences.  What allows us to laugh rather than rage or weep is a shift in perspective.  What allows us to laugh with someone rather than at another can also be a conscious change in perspective.  Language is fluid; the meaning of words continually changes. Our spirits are fluid as well.  We can consciously choose to be a little silly, to strengthen our connection with others by laughing with them rather than at them, and to even find delight in being able to laugh at ourselves.  LOL might just be a path to having a healthy body and spirit.
 
PARKS & RE-CREATION PDF Print E-mail
Friday, 21 May 2010 11:51

I recently watched the PBS series by Ken Burns on the National Parks.  It was gorgeous to watch.  Like his other series on the Civil War, Baseball, Jazz, etc, there several hours in which a combination of old photos, period writing, historical facts, and commentary told the stories of our National Park system.  I learned that the conflict between those who wanted to preserve the land for future generations and those who wished to benefit in the present was at the heart of the park movement from its inception (and continues to this day).  Burns also lifted the fact that a national park system was a uniquely American idea.  The idea is summed up in The Roosevelt Arch which serves as the north entrance to Yellowstone National Park in Gardiner, Montana. The arch's cornerstone was laid down by President of the United States Theodore Roosevelt in 1903. The top of the arch is inscribed with a quote from the Organic Act of 1872, the legislation which created Yellowstone, which reads "For the Benefit and Enjoyment of the People."  Instead of the most scenic land belonging to the rich; as traditional in Europe and Asia the most awe inspiring natural phenomena were to be preserved for “the people”.  
    

joh muir
 
John Muir (1838-1914)

The documentary lifted up several people for whom the land, which became park land, served as a source of inspiration and healing of the soul.  John Muir was one of the earliest advocates of the national park idea, and its most eloquent spokesman.  Muir felt a spiritual connection to nature; he believed that mankind is just one part of an interconnected natural world, not its master, and that God is revealed through nature.  Muir's three-night camping trip with President Theodore Roosevelt in 1903 (when Muir was 65) could be considered the most significant camping trip in conservation history.  He was able to persuade Roosevelt to return Yosemite Valley and the Mariposa Grove to federal protection as part of Yosemite National Park. The trip would have a lasting impact on the president, but you’ll need to watch the video or read a little history to understand why.
    The idea of God being revealed in nature is nothing new.  For those of us of the Christian tradition the idea is particularly found in the book of Genesis and the Psalms:
In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. (Genesis 1:1)

When I look at your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars that you have established; what are human beings that you are mindful of them, mortals that you care for them? (Psalm 8:3-4)

The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.  He makes me lie down in green pastures; he leads me beside still waters; he restores my soul. (Psalm 23:1-3)

But, it is also lifted up by Jesus:
Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? (Matthew 26:6)

And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. (Matthew 26:8)

And early in the morning, while it was still dark, He arose and went out and departed to a lonely place, and was praying there. (Mark 1:35)

And immediately He made His disciples get into the boat and go ahead of Him to the other side to Bethsaida, while He Himself was sending the multitude away. And after bidding them farewell, he departed to the mountain to pray.
(Mark 6:45-46)

But He Himself would often slip away to the wilderness and pray. ( Luke 5:16)

I remember going to Yellowstone National Park with my Boy Scout troop when I was in ninth grade.  In fact I don’t think I will ever forget that trip which allowed me to see awesome sights: Mount Rushmore, The Badlands, Old Faithful, Morning Glory Pool, Sulfur Pits, crossing mountain passes, close encounters with bears, a heard of elk, experiencing the Upper and Lower Falls.  Throughout my life quiet time among the trees, near lakes, running water, or in the mountains has fed my spirit.  The divine may be experienced anywhere and everywhere; yet many faith traditions recognize the importance of sacred places in nature. I encourage everyone to go to a National or State Park this summer if you get the chance.  Create space and time to be filled with awe, for spiritual lessons to be revealed within nature, to allow profound questions regarding your life to be asked, for a new perspective to be offered, a deeper connection forged between yourself and nature / God, and to have your spirit refreshed and your soul restored.

 
A quick note PDF Print E-mail
Thursday, 05 March 2009 00:18
A friend knew my interest in legacy writing and sent me a link to a Denver Post article.  It’s a good introduction to ethical wills.

Heirs To Life's Lessons

http://www.denverpost.com/breakingnews/ci_11758230
Last Updated on Thursday, 05 March 2009 00:19
 
Aging is a Spiritual Journey PDF Print E-mail
Monday, 23 February 2009 17:48
“Aging is a Spiritual Journey”
All of us can probably tell stories of elders we have known who nurture our souls.  Elmira (101years old) and her brother Wendell (98years old) were like that for me.  I would stop to see them, she was crippled up with arthritis, and was not able to see much anymore while he could not hear very well, yet they were quietly engaged with life and their memories, so that I always left with a sense of being refreshed.  “Aging is a spiritual journey” doesn’t mean that we become more religious, but rather that we perceive that the experiences of a lifetime adds new dimensions to our connection with life, with others, with the Divine, and with our own sense of meaning. 

The Northeast Forum on Spirituality and Aging (www.nefosa.org) was formed to promote conversation across denominations and faith traditions to better understand the connections between aging and spirituality.  Mel Kimble, himself in his eighties, in a recent lecture, asked his audience the essential question, “I have worked so hard to grow old, is it worth the struggle?”  Some say “No” because the losses destroy any hope for a “quality of life.”  Others say “Yes,” despite the obvious challenges that come with age.  Yes, aging brings decline.  Yes, aging brings loss.  Yes, aging brings wrinkles.  But aging also teaches us what we have always wanted and needed to know about life and living (Autumn Wisdom: Finding Meaning in the Later Years by James Miller).  We encourage a view of ministry as process rather than a program; that ministry in the second half of life seeks to accomplish something that is far greater than filling a calendar with lots of activities.  Older adult ministry ultimately seeks to be attentive to, nurture, encourage, and deepen a person’s spiritual life as well as responding to physical and psychosocial needs. 

“Aging is a spiritual journey!” is an often used phrase by Rev. Don Koepke, a retired Lutheran pastor / chaplain / educator whose passion has kept him in dialogue with like minded travelers within the Christian tradition.  It is a message that he has shared with health care professionals in their work with patients, residents, and clients both fit and frail; with clergy whose congregations put their hope in being able to attract young people; and with all the rest of us who keep bumping up against our not being able to do what we used to do.  That’s why the Northeast Forum on Spirituality and Aging has invited Don Koepke author of Ministering to Older Adults: The Building Blocks to the Upstate area.  We also invite you to come and bring both your questions and insights.  Please tell your friends in other parts of the state.
Schedule for Don Koepke
Thursday, April 23, 2009 - Buffalo
Date        April 23, 2009   
Time        9:00 – 12:00pm (registration begins 8:30am)
Place        Lord of Life Lutheran Church
1025 Borden Road
DePew,  NY    14043-4221
Program     Spirituality and Dementia – Caring for the Whole Person
Audience    Clergy, health care professionals, aging service providers
Cost         $25.00 by April 10, 2009; Late registration $35.00 by 4/17
Male checks payable to LutheranCare
        $45.00 for both morning & evening sessions in Buffalo.

Date        April 23, 2009
Time        6:00 – 9:00pm (registration begins 5:30pm)
Place        Lord of Life Lutheran Church
1025 Borden Road
DePew,  NY    14043-4221
Program    Older Adult Ministry – More than Bus Trips & Lunch
Audience    congregational lay leaders, parish care, clergy
Cost         $25.00 by April 10, 2009; Late registration $35.00 by 4/17
        $45.00 for both morning & evening sessions in Buffalo.
Friday, April 24, 2009 – Rochester
Date        April 24, 2009   
Time        10:00 – 12:30am
Place        Incarnate Word Lutheran Church
            597 East Avenue
            Rochester, NY 14607
Program    Aging and Spirituality
    Audience    participants at Wellness Program at Incarnate Word

Date        April 24, 2009
Time        1:00 – 3:30pm (registration begins 12:30pm)
Place        Incarnate Word Lutheran Church
        597 East Avenue
            Rochester, NY 14607
Program    Aging and Spirituality
    Audience    Clergy, health care professionals, parish care
    Cost         $25.00 by April 10, 2009; Late registration $35.00 by 4/17

Saturday, April 25, 2009 – Clinton
Date        April 25, 2009
Time        9:00 – 12:00noon (registration starts 8:30)
Place        LutheranCare
        Martin Luther Community Room
            108 Utica Road
            Clinton, NY  13323
Program    Spirituality and Dementia – Caring for the Whole Person   
Audience    Clergy, lay leaders, health care professionals
Cost         $25.00 by April 10, 2009; Late registration $35.00 by 4/17
 
RESILIENCE IS A GIFT: PDF Print E-mail
Thursday, 08 January 2009 20:30
RESILIENCE IS A GIFT:
Things We Can Learn From Each Other
In the Church calendar we are in the season of Epiphany.  The word means “to reveal” as in the Star revealed to the three wise men that a holy child had been born.  I believe that our own lives reveal things about faith, hope and love.  I want to give you something to think about.  If like me you believe that life is sacred, then it follows that my life as sacred.  As I’ve said in orientation, “Not everyone is religious, be everyone is spiritual”.  We all have our ways of connecting to the events and people of our life.  We reveal our connection through our beliefs and the stories that we tell.
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